When self-help is not helping anymore
I was taught that life problems could be solved if you follow a certain steps. I was taught that depression will heal once you listen to music, once you open up to your feelings and once you acknowledge them.Books and social media make it look easy. They made it look quick, easy and convenient. As if you start journaling everyday, you will start to learn how to love yourself.
They made it look like a sure recipe that brought success, that if you only do it for two weeks, one month or one year. You will be guaranteed a happier life. But it is not easy like that. There are people who came in depths of hell, who experienced worse than grief, loss and sadness. There are people who came from abuse and to say that it is easy. That there is a sure way into a better life is not helping at all.
There trauma and depression cannot be changed simply by telling them to change their lifestyle or their mindset. You cannot change your mindset simply by reading a book. You need to live by it, day by day. The problem with the self help-industry is became a straight path we need to follow. We became obssessed with the results, it fed our expectations, it distort our view of success and instead of letting us heal, it only put a bandage where the wounds needs to be treated and not cover up.
